“My Ex And I Argue Every Time We Have A Visitation Exchange. Can This Be Stopped?”

Visitation exchanges can often become heated, particularly during a custody or divorce case. Fighting and arguing during exchanges is not something the child or children should have to see, and efforts should be taken to make sure that arguing is stopped early on.

A judge has several ways to eliminate arguing, from fairly mild measures to much stronger regulations.

Initially, a judge may make an order that nothing other than urgent information about the children be discussed during the exchanges. If the children are older, the judge can order that the exchanges be “curbside” exchanges, where the children go from a vehicle to a residence without the parents having to interact.

Further steps can be to order that the exchanges be videotaped or record in some way, or even for them to happen in a public place. Public places can be restaurants and parks, or in more extreme cases, and a law enforcement station or even at a professionally supervised exchange location.

The first step to fixing the problem is to first make sure your behavior is appropriate, then clearly communicate to your Ex that the arguing must end. If it does, that is the point where you need court intervention.

These ideas are for arguing and fighting—not for violence of threats. If either of those are present at an exchange, you need to talk to an attorney about a restraining order or criminal incident reporting.

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