“My Ex Immediately Starting Dating Someone With Kids—Is That OK?”

In a perfect world, people who have separated would finish their court case, take some time to re-group, and only begin dating again in a careful manner that does not create stress on their kids.

In reality, people often go right from one relationship into another, including sometimes moving in immediately with another person. These create problems for both the parties, and for the judge.

On one hand, people have a right to date whomever they want to, and in fact, almost everyone moves on from a broken relationship eventually. On the other hand, not all relationships are good for children to be exposed to.

In general, judges have concerns about the following:

*Relationships that start IMMEDIATELY after a break-up
*A relationship with someone who has substance abuse problems or a criminal record
*Relationships that put children from different families in the same house right after a break up, while the children are still adjusting to the new status quo
*Relationships where there is conflict between the two different sets of children

In any of those cases, the judge can make restrictions, such as ordering that the new significant other not be living with the children at the beginning, or restricting contact between the children and the new boyfriend or girlfriend.

It is really important to sort through your feelings on the issue to determine if it is really a detrimental situation which the judge can address, or a personal feeling about your ex moving on. If it is truly about the children, then it is a good idea to address it with the judge.

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