“Do’s and Don’t’s of Texting in Family Law Cases”

Texting is rapidly becoming the most common form of modern communication. It is used extensively in cases where custody and visitation schedules are being discussed, followed, or changed. They often end up in evidence in a contested court hearing. Here are some do’s and don’t’s to keep in mind:

DO make sure your communications are polite, despite your feelings. You are trying to solve problems, not get back at your ex. Only say things you are OK with the judge reading.

DON’T throw blame for past problems. Keep the discussion to the topic at hand.

DO make sure you are very clear in your texts. Make sure times, dates, and locations are clearly specified so that there is no confusion.

DON’T use swearing or insults. This one should be self-explanatory.

DO keep all of your text messages. You might regret it if you erase or clear out what can be important messages.

DON’T mix phone conversations and text conversations without following up with a confirming text. Strings of texts that are interspersed with phone calls can be extremely difficult to untangle later since there will be missing pieces.

DO put agreements to change visitation schedules in writing. Texts are very good for the purpose.

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